tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post1173516376086857167..comments2024-03-01T00:28:27.209-05:00Comments on Hello Ello: Why Alpha Males are ASSHOLESEllo - Ellen Ohhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18311917335471167591noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-2396559694869628832020-03-02T02:11:28.370-05:002020-03-02T02:11:28.370-05:00Satta king
this is amazing blog<a href="https://www.playbazaar.xyz/" rel="nofollow">Satta king</a><br />this is amazing blogplaybazaarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452559552575175081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-36268872949683713762015-05-15T10:19:02.974-04:002015-05-15T10:19:02.974-04:00oh you mean charlie sheenoh you mean charlie sheenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828419389893790043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-13687650313940256812014-08-09T20:18:03.417-04:002014-08-09T20:18:03.417-04:00Much respect to you for respecting yourself!Much respect to you for respecting yourself!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14605234847701672508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-6731257441584772522010-12-05T11:08:18.546-05:002010-12-05T11:08:18.546-05:00Thank you! This post gave me a much needed giggle!...Thank you! This post gave me a much needed giggle! I loved the list of re-imagined covers. I have to admit, unrealistic Alpha Heroes *and* bad covers both scare me.Darcy Drakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263535041680335553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-5640313810024362382010-11-27T19:13:03.193-05:002010-11-27T19:13:03.193-05:00I could deal with a romantic novel dude who's ...I could deal with a romantic novel dude who's good at everything and never farts if it weren't for the I'm-right-you're-wrong-so-obey-me-dammit attitude.<br /><br />My mom's a major Christine Feehan fan and got me reading her books. Now I'll grant you the woman can write. She's good at setting up paranormal mythologies and backstories, and her craftsmanship is generally good. But OMG her guys!!<br /><br />I've read over 20 of her books so far. I've at least grumbled about the guy in every book, and cussed and ranted at most. I finally DNFed <i>Safe Harbor.</i> Jonas is a small town sheriff who used to be an Army Ranger, so he's a Tough Dude. He's known the Drake sisters since they were all little kids, he loves them all, he's like a brother to them (except Hannah) and he's been a prominent supporting character in every book from the start.<br /><br />He's a major asshole. He's nasty and sarcastic and demanding and a bully. He's particularly aimed his assholery at Hannah, so of course we knew from Book One that the two of them were destined for one another. [eyeroll] They constantly fight, he orders her around and insults her, he gives her panic attacks and makes her cry with his behavior, but of course everyone knows he loves her.<br /><br />Umm, right. Seriously, how many abusive boyfriends and husbands claim to love the women they're abusing?<br /><br />They finally got their book, and it's more of the same. Hannah's in danger, but she's a professional and has contracts and obligations, which she fulfills despite Jonas ordering her not to. And of course something awful happens -- wow, Jonas was right! Who'd have guessed?!<br /><br />And that's what the trademark Feehan Relationship is all about. The man wants to protect the woman, and he's always right. It's impossible that a woman could weigh risks and benefits and obligations and make a valid, rational decision which differs from that of a man. No, no -- clearly if a woman ever disagrees with a man who claims to love her, she's acting like a little girl, she's being childish, a <i>defiant</i> child at that. Because acting like a mature woman means obeying your man in all things. [cough]<br /><br />Book after book, series after series. At this point I don't think I'm being at all unfair in theorizing that this is the author's idea of what's romantic, and how a romantic relationship should go. She even addresses the ordering-around crap in some of the books, where the guy says right out that he's not into that "politically correct crap" where he lets his woman do something dangerous; it's his job to protect her, to reign her in, to control her crazy whims, to put a stop to her childish tantrums, or however he describes the behavior of this woman whom he claims to love but very clearly has absolutely no respect for. She's the woman, which makes her the child. He's the man, which makes him the adult. It's for him to command (for her own good, of course) and for her to obey.<br /><br />Wow.<br /><br />I've been hoping for a long time that Feehan would get into the 21st century (or even the latter chunk of the 20th) and write a different kind of guy, or create a different kind of romantic relationship. If nothing else, writing the same characters with new nametags, and the same relationship dynamics over and over and over, is bad writing. No luck so far, and I think at this point I'm giving up on her.<br /><br />Of course, I'm sure Ms. Feehan will, if she ever discovers my defection, cry all the way to the bank with her wheelbarrows of money. But yeah, her guys are assholes; some moreso than others, but the only question is how big an asshole they'll be, not whether. And they're crazy-popular, so it seems this crap is appealing to some large number of female readers. [sigh]<br /><br />Yet another reason I like m/m -- there are assholes, sure, but they tend to be individual characters rather than trends representing centuries of gender-political baggage. :/<br /><br />AngieAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920578701763415331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-51630473668095148342010-11-27T11:43:52.432-05:002010-11-27T11:43:52.432-05:00Too true. Very funny. Both genders have unrealis...Too true. Very funny. Both genders have unrealistic fantasies that are fun to pretend about.Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11795668965659926769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-68226718444300958102010-11-25T23:34:58.470-05:002010-11-25T23:34:58.470-05:00this post made me laugh really hard. i was forced ...this post made me laugh really hard. i was forced to read it aloud to my family. the comments were many and varied. most of them cannot be quoted in polite society.<br /><br />and apparently the correct term for the act you mention in #1 is a "dutch oven." i am thus informed by my brother, who is more than an expert in these matters.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-65970014031069715432010-11-25T17:02:12.276-05:002010-11-25T17:02:12.276-05:00Charles Gramlich: And then humanity will go extinc...<b>Charles Gramlich:</b> And then humanity will go extinct because we'll stop breeding. <br /><br /><b>Ello:</b> I have a pet theory that women have to deal with some pesky, outdated lizard-brain programming that makes us go, "mm-hmmmm..." when we see successful genetic material--i.e. a brawny, bold, successful alpha male asshole.<br /><br />Never mind that sweet, geeky (fart-monster) husbands are what make us happy--our lizard brain is still working on the assumption that: Strong male = Babies that won't die too easily.<br /><br />And likewise, I suspect men struggle against lizard-brain logic that tells them to chase skirts because: Many ladies = Many babies = DNA successfully launched into the future.jjdebenedictishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16950592240599703771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4595491177347226789.post-72208901984570155162010-11-25T09:33:21.323-05:002010-11-25T09:33:21.323-05:00Each gender wants something it can't have in t...Each gender wants something it can't have in the other it appears. Well, eventually we'll have androids to provide us with all those things.Charles Gramlichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02052592247572253641noreply@blogger.com