What with all the hoopla about the Battle hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua I just want to say PFFFFFFTTTTTTTHHHHHHH to it all. So people think Amy Chua is the worst mother in the world. Ha! Sorry to burst your bubble but she's a typical Asian Mom. Ok, maybe extreme in some ways (3 to 4 hours of piano and violin everyday?! My Mom could barely force me to do an hour! But 2 hours of math homework every day! AGH! This is why I hate math!). But tough love is a very Asian Mom thing. I shall pass no judgment on it other than to say that it isn't the way I choose to raise my own children. But that doesn't make it bad, it's just a little messed up is all.
So I'm going to recycle an old post I did because it is a perfect example of what this whole ruckus is about. This is an actual conversation that occurred between my Mom and I after my second pregnancy.
Mom: Waaaaa! You got so fat! You look like a fat person swallowed your face!
Me: That's really nice, Mom. I love you too.
Mom: I love you that is why I tell you. Only mother who loves their child very much would tell them they are ugly. If I hate you, I would tell you you are beautiful and you should eat more food. Eat more chocolate. Person who tells you to eat more, they the one that hate you! Not me I love you so much so I put you on diet, help you keep your husband.
Me: There is nothing wrong with our relationship...
Mom: For now! But stay too fat too long and he gonna look for pretty skinny girl and what happen to you? Fat, ugly with babies and no man. Poor you!
Me: Don't worry!
Mom: Don't worry? How can I not worry? I the only who one worry for you! (long silence) Did he take life insurance out on you?
Mom: I just worry that's all!